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October recap…learning to love (and that includes myself)

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October was all about learning to have more self love and compassion. It was eye opening for me. Although I understand that it’ll take more that just a few positive affirmations and some self care to really “arrive” to a place of self-love and compassion. However, it was well worth the effort and I noticed subtle changes begin to take place. After All, it’s those daily little deeds that amount to great things.

For example, I was sitting on an airplane and was starving because I just barely made my connection and didn’t have time to grab food in the airport. I wanted to order food, but I didn’t want to inconvenience the flight attendants or the man sitting next to me by ringing the little bell that calls for their service. Then, this little voice of self-care came into my head reminding me that I needed to eat and take care of myself by doing so. So. I rang the bell and ordered food, and while the salad was disgusting, I was truly proud of my self-care efforts.

Here are some other things I did for self-care this week:

– Went for walks

– Ate out from time to time

– Listened to music I loved

– Went to bed early

– Played with my puppy, Maple

– Warmed up by the fire

– Fixed myself some herbal tea

– Played guitar and wrote a few little tunes

– Made some gluten free brownies

– Allowed myself to cry without judgement

This challenge was wonderful to be aware of, and will need to continue on for a lifetime for me. I hope I can truly continue building that self-compassion and love throughout my life.

October’s challenge…better late than never, right?

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So I’ve actually been thinking of a challenge for this month and I’ve started the challenge but haven’t had a chance to post it on here yet. So please forgive the tardiness of this as October is already flying by! Ahh!! Crazy.

This month, my daily deed is kind of a two fold thing. I am doing a conscious act of self care every day along with telling myself three positive affirmations in the mirror every day.

This month for me is going to be about learning to have self compassion, self love and about remembering that in order to really connect and love others, I must first learn to love myself. I’m not sure if that is scientifically proven, but I’ve heard it before and it sounds and feels true to me. Christ even said, “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” (Mark 12:31). Which to me seems to be saying that we must also love ourselves if we want to really love others. When we work towards really believing that we are worthy of that love…perhaps we can start to see others that way as well. I like to see it as loving from the inside out.

My positive affirmations may change from day to day, but these are a few that I am most likely going to use:

  • I am worthy of love and belonging
  • I am a daughter of God with infinite worth and value
  • God knows me perfectly and loves me infinitely
  • I love and nurture myself every day
  •  As I love myself, I am more able to give and receive love
  • Everything is working together for my good

I’m looking forward to experimenting with this. I’m going to pay attention to how it affects me and how I feel. I wonder if this daily deed will change anything within me or around me. I’ll write about my experiences in the days to come. Please feel free to join along!

Xo,

Bianca

A few other new things to finish up September. Where did that month go?!

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My oh my. I’m not sure where September went. One minute it was here, and the next it was gone. Well for the sake of living up to my challenges, here are some new things I tried to finish up the month.

– I went to a new yoga class.

– Tried a burger and fries place here in Boise that was so delish, I went two days in a row!

– Gave my first in-home music therapy session to a girl who has autism.

– Went to what will be my new church location if my husband and I actually are able to close on this home that we’re in the process of buying. It was so fun to imagine what our lives will be like while sitting in the pew of this church building that I haven’t been in yet, and surrounded by unfamiliar faces. It’s exciting to imagine the possibilities and also a little surreal.

– I went to my first ever Play Therapy conference. I really hope to become a Play Therapist one day. I got to go with my sister to this conference, and we had so much fun.

– I bought my first working record player at this little shop that my sister and I have wanted to check out for a while. I’m so excited to use in the that home I mentioned above.

– I went to my first home inspection. That was interesting.

– I got to sit down with a guy at a mortgage company to discuss the possibility of buying a house- never done that before.

– I found a little quiet spot outside to sit, read and write on. There’s something really healing about grass to me.

– I made a play-date with my nephew.

– I started writing a new song.

– I also learned a lot of things for the first time. While this wasn’t necessarily a physical action, it was just as real and important for me. Below are just a few things I’ve learned in graduate school this month. It’s amazing to me that I’ve learned as much as I have in only a matter of a few weeks. To name just a few of these things, I’ve learned that…

  1. Feeling is actually a victory. Not the other way around. (That goes with all feelings. Yes, all feelings.)
  2. Feeling feelings in the moment as much as possible is healing and allows for release of that emotion after it has been felt and acknowledged.
  3. When expressing thoughts and feelings, don’t forget to use, “I think,” “I feel” and “I experience” instead of making general statements such as “You sometimes feel…” I honestly never realized how often I do this until it was pointed out to me in one of my classes at school. It’s amazing how empowering it is to express feelings/thoughts and experiences that way. It puts ownership on them.
  4. Self-care is key. Intentional, conscious acts to take care of oneself is vitally important.

So there you have it. September for me was full, and I mean so FULL of new things for me. It was enlivening…It was enriching…And it was quite overwhelming at times. Goodbye September of 2014. You were wonderful.

Xo,

Bianca